5 Things I’ve Learned About My Worth, So Far.
This year my word is WORTHY and so far it's been exhilarating and exhausting 🫠 That's probably a good sign because it means that I am actually practicing my worth. Last month in The Year Of Awakening we dove head-first into worthiness. We journaled, we cried, we talked about blocks and moments of feeling the worthiness in our bodies. For many, there was often a disconnect and comments like, logically I know I am worthy, but I don't always feel it. Same.
More than anything, this journey has been a constant endeavor of releasing. Releasing expectations that I will ‘figure it out’ and be free of this work one day. Letting go of judgment for how hard worthiness feels sometimes. Releasing perfectionism and being hyper-critical of my journey. And a journey it has been.
Here are a few interesting and unexpected ways I'm dropping worthiness from my head into my heart:
The worthiness-work never ends so buckle up buttercup, because if you want to rewire your brain for unconditional worth, you will consistently confront your mind, people and messages that try to tell you otherwise…for the rest of your life. I'm letting go of the expectation that this work will end one day and going all in with my heart.
Practicing worth is more fun, more beneficial and easier (truly) when you explore it in a community that reminds you you're never alone. It's the missing piece I never knew I needed. Surround yourself with people whose worth you see and who sees yours, too.
My bestie called me recently and told me this: “I don't care how good or bad you are at what you do. Your work doesn't mean shit about your worth, and I see your worth and love you no matter what." This gave me the freedom and permission I needed to let go of external validation 🥹
I've adopted something about worthiness that Brené Brown has said about gratitude: You don't have to feel grateful to practice gratitude → You don't have to feel worthy to practice worthiness.
There is not a more worthwhile, challenging or enlightening practice than leaning in every single fucking day to your unconditional worthiness. My heart knows it's on a worthwhile path.
Dedicating a whole year to my worth is one of the best decisions I've ever made and it's already changing my life.
I'm showing up more authentically (and imperfectly). I've fucked up and forgiven myself. I've noticed I'm more generous with myself and others and I'm wayyyy less attached to outcomes and external validation.
I know my value now more than ever and I had no idea that that was the freedom I've been searching for my whole life.